The media does a wonderful job of telling us what a desirable life should be. The romantic comedies, movies or dramas tell us what love or a wedding ceremony should be like, head over heels when instead love is just simple and platonic as waking up to do breakfast together and holding hands at our pace.
Great entertainment but we may not realize how it’s affecting us subconsciously on the difference between fantasy and reality.
I call this ’embedded #expectations‘.
Embedded expectations are our own subconscious programming and not an external ask from another party.
Many times, these embedded expectations can be done away with to improve our own self-care, sanity, work, life and balance.
For example, this young husband wanted regular visits and gatherings with family because he grew up in an environment where friends and cousins hang out on a weekly basis.
However, the young wife sees the importance of gathering but not on a weekly basis.
The embedded expectations of the young husband would think he is doing a disservice or being a disappointment to his friends and cousins.
The friends and cousins never exert pressure or expect anything from him.
The #pressure or expectations are coming from within himself.
Can the young husband have lesser gatherings or even do without them? The answer is yes.
The same embedded expectations happen at work too. Everyone attaches a different value and perspective to a subject or matter.
The fact is, we all have a choice. The right choices matter in making our lives better.
I am Mar Vin Foo 🌿🪟.
Thank you for finding out our embedded expectations.